I just had an hour long conversation with a relationship therapist and what I’ve discovered is crazy

My first question was “why aren’t relationships lasting anymore?” And her response I couldn’t anticipate.

She said “ there’s different reasons why. I’m married to divorce lawyer and we put our experiences together to come this conclusion.”

“Before social media people had to leave their homes to find options, the internet has changed that. Options are accessible 24 hours a day 365 days a year.

Men are less inclined to stay in relationships they aren’t happy bc they can pick their phone up find someone in minutes.”

“Bc of this cheating is far easier. While women are also guilty of this bc a woman is always aware of her options ( don’t let them lie and say they don’t have them ) men a most likely to act on it.

“2 hypocrisy kills women when it comes to relationships. Women seem to hold this belief that a man should “give” their love instead it being “earned” while simultaneously holding the belief that a man isn’t worthy of her love until he earns it.

Women do not own their hypocrisy

“From my husbands and i’s experience and studies far more men are filing for divorce in the last 10 years than women. Men are fed up with women wanting “providers” instead of partners”

I asked what’s the difference?

She said “partners collaborate and work together to build providers are one sided... Almsot like fathers so I tell women if you want a provider go to your father if you a partner look for a man that’s looking to collaborate and build with you”

She ended with “dnt be fooled by the narrative women are pushing that they are leaving relationships bc they are independent and need more, these marriages and relationships are ending now and it’s the men ending them bc they are realizing a lot of women are financial liabilities

“Men are realizing its cheaper and less mentally and emotionally taxing to stay single than to enter a relationship and for the most part they are right. Women want the most but don’t want to earn it bc they are conditioned from birth that it should be given to them while men...

From birth are conditioned to believe that everything in their life they have to work for. That nice house, he has to work for it, that car he has to work for it, that woman? Has to work for it. “

“Women end up in controlling and abusive relationships looking for “providers” bc they are willing to relinquish control over their lives for stability. This can be avoided if they stop looking for “providers” and start looking for “collaborators”