Read on Twitter
another lesson i would like to share that i’ve been practicing is just listening...
no matter if it’s listening to someone or just listening to silence.
just. listen.
no matter if it’s listening to someone or just listening to silence.
just. listen.
i’ve gone through life wanting to be heard and just silently maneuvering through the years unknowingly. i say the most simplest things but the unmet need is always within what i say but it always falls upon deaf ears.
listening to someone IS a love language.
when people say, “i want to be seen”, they aren’t expressing a desire to be physically looked upon. they are asking to be heard, to be understood, to not be judged.
people have dealt with so much trauma growing up & still dealing with
when people say, “i want to be seen”, they aren’t expressing a desire to be physically looked upon. they are asking to be heard, to be understood, to not be judged.
people have dealt with so much trauma growing up & still dealing with
that trauma to this day. unknowingly speaking from a wounded place in their spirit. but all they are asking for is to be heard.
when someone goes unheard, develops an attitude of feeling misunderstood or judged, that creates anger and it creates fear.
when someone goes unheard, develops an attitude of feeling misunderstood or judged, that creates anger and it creates fear.
i spoke on fear a week ago. i’m telling you that majority of our actions are coming from unconscious fear.
we hold in our wants and desires. we don’t say what we mean, we say what would please.
there comes a point in our lives where we get tired of being silent and we act out. we jump outside of ourselves and literally say fuck it. the fear dissipates & so does our silence.
there comes a point in our lives where we get tired of being silent and we act out. we jump outside of ourselves and literally say fuck it. the fear dissipates & so does our silence.
once that happens, we fall upon more judgement from those who genuinely just don’t want to understand you. they walk away from you. leave you hanging. passive aggressively avoid contact with you because they don’t want to deal with the outburst.
they try to silence you..again.
they try to silence you..again.
when this happened to me not once, but twice by the same individuals, i blamed myself each time because i put myself in their shoes and thought about how i made them feel. forgetting what i sacrificed and how i did nothing but listen to their needs and met them with love.
real friends/family know when you are screaming out for help because they see you. they hear you. they understand you. they know what actions of yours are normal & which actions are out of the ordinary. listening is a love language.
when someone avoids trying to hear you, even if you look at it through the lens of that person trying to “protect” themselves, just know that fear is always at play. fear to hear the truth. fear to connect to confrontation. fear to communicate. fear to admit wrong doing.
fear to connect with someone they deem as unworthy. fear connected to boundaries.
i listen to others with the intent to understand and to love them through their own words. i listen for what someone is needing but not directly asking for. i do this as someone who finds it hard to say what i need because as a child into adulthood, i was consistently denied or
unheard...avoided. so what i put forth in my relationships/friendships, is what i pray for in return. people won’t reciprocate that same love language back to me because their love language of course can be different.
listen to your loved ones.
look them in their eyes when they are speaking.
as humans, we unconsciously, most times, express what we try to hide the most. & being with or around someone who just knows because they have taken the time to KNOW & SEE you, makes all the difference -
look them in their eyes when they are speaking.
as humans, we unconsciously, most times, express what we try to hide the most. & being with or around someone who just knows because they have taken the time to KNOW & SEE you, makes all the difference -
when healing trauma of feeling unheard or unseen.
I know there is a lot going on in the world today. But this ties into that element as well. We as black people feel unheard in our trauma. If seeing the people that look like us, our family, our babies, etc, get murdered on camera. ....murdered in general. we feel unheard
in our pain. we feel that who we are and what we were born into, is embedded within us and we carry that pain. we carry the pain of our ancestors who were slaves. we carry the pain of our great grandparents who dealt with segregation. we carry the pain of those who were raped,
beaten, murdered, and talked down upon just based on a built in fear projected into white people. the same way we (black people) are raised to learn how to “talk to” a cop or a white person so that we don’t trigger that fear inside of them to react disgustingly.
we are unheard. people consistently try to erase the past and also erase what is currently still happening. but continue to use your voice to the best of your ability. continue to work on your throat and base chakras. because you belong here. you deserve to be heard.
become grounded. LISTEN to yourself, but most importantly, listen to others. there is pain in there. there are traumatic experiences in there that deserve to heal and be heard. i love you.
song for this thread - Beyoncé - Listen.
those lyrics...whew.
those lyrics...whew.
good night
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="✨" title="Sparkles" aria-label="Emoji: Sparkles">
