intimidating and threatening people into agreeing with you, and subsequently unleashing your wrath on them when they don't, is as unambiguously textbook abuse as they come. your intent/justification of why you're doing it doesn't make you the hero, it makes you a police report.

having loud, passionate fights or disagreements is one thing, but going out of your way to damage a person's life or wellbeing is very literally criminal. your feelings on why you think it is okay to harm someone else does not exempt you from the fact you are acting criminally.

the road to being an abuser is feeling justified in making harmful actions toward others. it literally starts with the thought "they deserve this"

the road to not being an abuser is not making harmful actions, and repairing/stopping harmful actions when they happen

every single person, including me, has behaved badly in their lives, and caused damage to people around us. your reasons why don't really matter, just whether or not you're able to take accountability for it and willing to change your actions to never repeat the damage again

I have no idea who needs to hear this, but I do know nobody ever wants to see themselves as the abuser, "the bad guy." Well, the bad guy never sees themselves as the bad guy, don't they? Learning the self-awareness to recognize you're being one is necessary to stop being one.

Other people don't exist to take the punishment of your feelings, no matter how strong they may feel to you. If you have trouble managing your emotional behavior, either because you were never taught to or because of a disorder, please seek out therapy/counselling options.

I've been biting my tongue on this for a while, because I don't want to make a habit of lecturing strangers anymore, especially on twitter. I just want to chill in my own corner and draw. But I also want to make clear: I'm not here to be a vessel for your feelings, either.