People are selfish. They’ll keep you around simply bc they like feeling wanted. They like the idea of having someone wait for them even if they have no intent to settle down. If they really need time to “get it together”, they’d let you go until they do.

Y’all accept these bogus excuses for why someone isn’t ready for a relationship, but still allow them to hold you hostage as if you’re in one. “We not together, but we together.” Don’t accept that shit. Please.

This is why I say respect is greater than love. Someone can love you the best way they know how but if they don’t respect you enough to care about your well being, your mental health and your heart, forget the love. RESPECT me and my time enough to let me go.

Also, stop contributing to your own unhappiness. If someone is trying to let you go, LET THEM. Stop “checking in”. Stop making small talk. They’re not ready. Give them space. Stop forcing your presence. You wanted honesty, respect that they can’t love you/be with you right now.