i told my mother that middle children learn to take care of themselves at a very early age because they know nobody will do it for them and she agreed instead of getting defensive???

she talked about how parents try to compensate for the birth and attention towards the second child by giving more attention to the eldest child and end up ignoring the second child. and the youngest child gets the most attention anyway.

this happened after years of me trying to explain to her why the middle child wala rona is everywhere in every family. lowkey proud of myself and proud of her for idk in a way accepting that she didn’t treat all her kids equally. i think just that is quite a lot for me to move on