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When I was about fifteen, I asked shaykh Assim Alhakeem if it was possible for me to have a romantic relationship with a man if we both avoid homosexuality. His response was "No, it's only a mater of time until you get into each other's pants" I'd like to say my opinions on this.
Firstly this isn't an appropriate response, I'm mentioning this now because I don't exactly love the way (some) of his responses are when revolving around LGBT topics and it's always important to trace everything back to Islam, even with regards to the etiquette of conversation.
But this thread isn't meant to be about him, and he's done far greater work for the ummah than I could dream of. From my personal experience, and I don't know if this can apply to everyone, especially men, as for me I do tend to feel emotions similarly to females in some ways.
But this is a short story on my experiences. I had an account very similar to this one, holding the views that anything relating to "gay" as haram essentially, including even announcing to people one's deviant inclinations. One day I received a message from another gay Muslim.
He was everything I could dream for, he had imaan in his character, his speech, he related to my experiences, provided support the best he could, was similar to me in age, and his face was beautiful, not in a sexual way, a way that drew me to him, basically he felt like home.
I'm writing this while experiencing the same set of emotions I did at first, my heart felt hurt, but I messaged him that I no longer wished to speak, I was ride towards him to drive him away, all while still hoping he'd remain, he told me he had no ill intentions in messaging me.
The same day I ended up making istikhara, after a few hours of trying my best to ignore him. I cried to Allah, wandering if I should message him and ask to try and have any sort of friendship, or to leave it alone. Soon after I finished praying, I was ready to message him.
SubhanAllah, when I went back to my account, he had deleted his, now being the person that I am, I cried an insane amount of times, every prayer I made, I would wish to be reunited with him in jannah. I wished for his safety and well being, and for what's best for us, to happen.
