I see a lot of sisters with a long checklist of who their ideal husband should be. This is okay.

To find someone who is bearded, speaks Arabic and recite the Qur'an with tajweed, western education, looks presentable and has swagger is not easy because there aren't many...1
Such people exist. I know quite a number.
There is also another group who have all the qualities mentioned above except that they're not as religiously inclined, but with exceptional character that is unmatched even by an Islamic scholar.

This is a good option too, sisters....2
There are also those who fall in the middle of the two options: with average character and average deen. This is an option that should also be considered.

Why did I mention this?
It all boils down to character, yes character.

Prophetic ahadiths have indicated that the best...
Among people is the one with the best character. "The best off you is the best of you toward his family and I am the best of you toward my family."
Give the brothers that did not tick all the boxes a chance to show their character.....3
It may be that you dislike something, and Allah bestows abundant blessings upon it.

I know cases of such 'complete package' kind of husbands who beat their wives.
I know of the 'not so religious' brothers' but with exceptional character who are admired even by the most religious
As for those with zero character (regardless of their Deen), and those with no commitment to the Deen (in knowledge and practice), stay away from such people.
If a marriage will lead to you Hellfire, stay single. There are 'Huurul 'een' among men waiting for you in Jannah.
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