I used to thinking loving someone was getting them fedhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😆" title="Smiling face with open mouth and tightly-closed eyes" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with open mouth and tightly-closed eyes"> and in the past I would make sure to get food ready for my partner when ever he was around.

That was what I saw the other women in my life do for their partners.

So this had to be it you know
Imagine my shock when the significant other started demanding things like conversations https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😱" title="Face screaming in fear" aria-label="Emoji: Face screaming in fear">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😆" title="Smiling face with open mouth and tightly-closed eyes" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with open mouth and tightly-closed eyes">

I was so quiet and would only speak when necessary.
You see all that playing with your partner, laughing and talking about challenges plus planning https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤔" title="Thinking face" aria-label="Emoji: Thinking face">

Yinmu, I was the listener https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😄" title="Smiling face with open mouth and smiling eyes" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with open mouth and smiling eyes">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😄" title="Smiling face with open mouth and smiling eyes" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with open mouth and smiling eyes">

It was what I saw most the older women in my life do.
The more years I have lived the more I have seen the imbalance in that way of loving. Women are not accessories, we are not just here to set the table when he comes back.
We are partners and most often than not the answers our partners need are in us talking with them helping them find clarity.

We are lovers, partners, counselors and whatever we decide to be.
Those experiences have taught me how I have got to get it right because with deliberately teaching anyone, there are a group of girls watching me who are going to do it the way I did.

Love is beyond food, we bring a whole lot more to the table.
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