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I& #39;ve been thinking about the difference between being open to feedback & actually accepting said feedback & then making changes. If I made changes based on everything everyone said to me, my life would be a mess. I listen, but at the end of the day, I choose how to proceed.
I believe strongly in taking ownership of one& #39;s choices because at the end of the day, each of us has to live with the consequences of said choices. People will weigh in & carry on. Telling others what they should be doing is easy when you& #39;re not the one who has to deal.
There& #39;s a lot to learn from others & listening to varied POVs can help us see perspectives we may not have previously considered. Being able to filter through all of it, knowing what to accept & what to chuck is where the work is.
"I hear you. Thank you. Here& #39;s what I choose."
"I hear you. Thank you. Here& #39;s what I choose."
It& #39;s not always simple. We have to deal with the feelings of those whose recommendations we didn& #39;t take. People generally have a hard time understanding that the people they love are allowed to choose different. We get it when we& #39;re making our choices, not so much when others are
We want others to respect our autonomy. Can we respect theirs tho? I want to be able to give the people I love recommendations & have them make the changes I want. Do they get to demand the same of me?
"Here& #39;s what I think. You get to decide tho, not me. I respect your choice"
"Here& #39;s what I think. You get to decide tho, not me. I respect your choice"
So after accepting all the feedback & weighing my options, I can then say "here& #39;s what I decided", knowing that the choice was mine. Which is different from "here& #39;s what my & #39;insert person whose opinion matters& #39; told me to do". Also different from "nobody can tell me what to do"