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༒𝐁𝐃𝐒𝐌 𝐁𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐬: 𝐀 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝༒

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𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐢𝗺𝐞𝐫:

If you haven’t already guessed it this is a thread focused on NSFW topics, kink specifically. If you are at all squeamish, then personally it’s 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 fault if you keep reading, now isn’t it? Now, for everyone else, continue at your own risk.

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𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐁𝐃𝐒𝐌?

This is in fact an abbreviation. BDSM broken down stands for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism. It’s a lifestyle for you to explore your 𝒅𝒊𝒓𝒕𝒚 little desires in a 𝐒𝐀𝐅𝐄, 𝐒𝐀𝐍𝐄 and 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐄𝐍𝐒𝐔𝐀𝐋 way.

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𝐇𝗼𝐰 𝐝𝗼 𝐈 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭?

Well, darling, let’s not get ahead of ourselves now. First of all you need to explore the depths of your 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅. Your fantasies are not something to just 𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘵 without thought, you need to make sure your headspace. . .

. . . is healthy enough to be on the receiving end, or the other way around. One doesn’t just go get tied up out of the blue. Discussions of limits, safewords, and medical limitations must be done before hand. Loss of blood flow to the brain makes for a very unattractive death.

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𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐰𝗼𝐫𝐝𝐬?

Safe words —as you may have guessed— are emergency phrases, gestures, and actions done in order to stop a scene from continuing. As a dominant, one should 𝐀𝐋𝐖𝐀𝐘𝐒 implement a safe word 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 any soft of. . .

. . . playtime with a submissive partner. This way if anything becomes too much for your little pet to handle you may stop what you’re doing and provide immediate aftercare. Think of it as the 𝑹𝑬𝑫 𝑳𝑰𝑮𝑯𝑻 of sex. If someone proclaims that you don’t need a safe word. . .

. . . or doesn’t respect it when you say it, they are the scum of the earth. Obviously, they have not done their research and are ignorant. Leave immediately and never look back.

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𝐇𝗼𝐰 𝐝𝗼 𝐈 𝐤𝐧𝗼𝐰 𝗺𝐲 𝐋𝐢𝗺𝐢𝐭𝐬?

How do you know if you like a certain food? You 𝒕𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒆 𝒊𝒕. Think of it as an ongoing sexual experiment ( As one detective in a 𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘 funny hat might put it ). There are four distinct limits. . .

. . . in BDSM: Hard Limit, Soft Limit, Time Limit and Required Limit. Hard limits are reserved for aspects and kinks of play that should 𝐍𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 be done to you or your partner. This should be treated as a 𝒅𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓 zone. If broken during a scene that should. . .

. . result in a 𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 of the relationship or session. Things that could be considered a hard limit would be if you had a back injury, so flogging on the back in a rough manner ( or any manner ) would be a hard limit. Anything involving the swapping of bodily. . .

. . . fluids could also be considered. Again, this is why we look into ourselves 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 starting any type of playtime. This is also why contractual agreements must be created before any relationship of this sort, but we shall get to that later. Moving on, we have soft. . .

. . limits. Unlike hard limits these are aspects or kinks of play that you are hesitant about, but would like to try with strict rules and regulations. An example of this would be “𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒅𝒆𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒅𝒆 𝒎𝒆, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒍𝒐𝒕𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆“ . . .

. . . or if you were an abuse survivor and 𝐖𝐀𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐃 to try impact play, you could say that there’s a limit to how hard your partner may strike you. Every submissive is able to set the rules for sessions. A common misconception is that the Dominant partner. . .

. . . is the one completely in control. That is wrong, as a submissive you set the rules for how you want to explore your sexuality. So, if you want to be spanked but not with a paddle of some sort, Dominants should respect that. Now, on to Required Limits. This. . .

. . . can be taken however you want. Required limits are something that is a 𝐌𝐔𝐒𝐓 during sessions. Are you a person who 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 gets off from having their hair pulled? You could make that a required limit to be done every time. Do you just 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 the idea. . .

. . . of someone treating you like their own little 𝑷𝑳𝑨𝒀𝑻𝑯𝑰𝑵𝑮? Again, you make the rules. Everyone has their likes and dislikes, but without this requirement being met you won’t be participating in any scenes. So, you better make sure your partner likes pulling your. . .