People who identify as bi lesbians are not being lesbo or biphobic. They are identifying themselves in what feels right.

People feel like they need these identifiers because y'all IMMEDIATELY associate bi with male attraction and guess what?

Lesbian doesn't include nonbinary people if it makes them uncomfortable.

I'm nonbinary, someone saying that their lesbian and they can like me is, to me, insinuating that I am a women/women lite. That makes me uncomfortable as fuck.

You don't get to decide what's okay for people.

This "lesbian has always included nonbinary people" is so gross and so invalidating to me, because I am not a woman, and saying that lesbians include me makes me feel like you're saying I am.

So all you anti-bi lesbians are invalidating several identities. Someone's good intentions, personal identity is not made to invalidate yours.

I'm so sick of this conflict. Bi lesbians were a definition and a thing until the 70s, when white feminists decided it was lesbophobic.

Here's a great thread by @captaintransma on some definitions and reasons for bi lesbian discourse. https://twitter.com/captaintransma/status/1265155074780655616?s=19

So can y'all please stop invalidating identities and gatekeeping?

I'm like *this* close to cutting mutuals with people and ruining several group chats and friend groups for myself.