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I am in such a healthy open relationship. (A THREAD)
Two years ago, I would have told you that open relationships aren’t possible & they were a lie lol.
The openness first came with my partner and I being able to talk to each other about everything...OPENLY. We held space for each other’s emotions & desires with no judgements.
One of our core values is FREEDOM. So I asked him, “What makes you feel free as a man and as a human?” He answered me honestly and I processed it. Because he shared his truth, I sat with it and eventually made room for it IN MY OWN TIME.
He did not force me to be okay with anything just as I didn’t force my truths & desires on him or when he would be okay with it.
As I continued to HEAL myself and expand into my highest self, things became easier. I also understood humans are medicine & who am I to prevent my life partner from receiving medicine that will elevate him.
Now, an open relationship DOES NOT mean that we go around having sex with a whole bunch of people. For us, it means the freedom to create meaning relationships with other humans that help us on the journey.
I cannot be his EVERYTHING & I don’t want to. That’s too much work and WAY to much pressure on my shoulders, I got enough, thanks.
I think our openness works for us because we are radically honest with ourselves and with each other. We talk possibilities out and set boundaries for what we’re cool with.
I realized I resisted open relationships because I dealt with trifling men in the past who would lie to me, cheat on me, & manipulate me. Once I found god in the form of the Black man I call my partner, who was I to limit his infinite spirit? Who was he to limit mine?
I released the lack mindset & fully dove in, trusting him, trusting myself, & trusting our divine union. We both had to understand that we are two individuals having our own experiences, but choosing to journey together.
