The entire Black community stands with straight Black men, through thick and thin. When they call Black women ugly, and praise white women. When they abuse their power in the church, fraternities, and in leadership positions at HBCUs. When they prey on children in the family.

When they go to jail. When addiction ruins them. When they abandon their families and don’t pay child support. When they're murdered by police, we're all outraged. But when police murdered Rekia Boyd died? No one showed up to the rally. Same with queer and trans Black people.

Bayard Rustin, MLK’s right hand man/strategist, and a gay Black man, planned the entire March on Washington for the 'I Have A Dream' speech. Homophobic, sexist Civil Rights leaders pressured MLK to persuade Rustin to let him take the credit. Bayard agreed, to protect MLK's image.

The forgiveness, second chances, patience and support is infinite. Yet, to so many Black men, Black women and Black queer/tran people are disposable.

And this is the other reason why I’ve always struggled to accept images that depict God as a white man.

It’s not just the whiteness that we associate with holiness, and God’s image, power, and authority. It’s also the maleness and the straightness.

And that’s why we have so many straight men, including Black men, who feel entitled to others' concern about their pain and victimhood. They demand the entire community's outrage about their suffering, but aside from their family, barely care about community. The double standard.

It's just assumed that they deserve to be rescued first. It's supposed to be common sense, because why wouldn't we save the ones who look like God first? The rest of us are just sub-human, sub-Black, in service of their agenda, their goals, their needs, their vision.

Be there for me like I'm there for you.