nearly all (if not all) of eliot waugh's trauma is tied to his queerness!
eliot would have never had the childhood defined and haunted by emotional (and maybe physical) abuse on the hands of his father and other people, if he wasn't queer!

if he didn't have that childhood defined by homophobic abuse, then opening up to mike about some of his personal truths and eventually having to kill him (something that was made a hundred times worse by its connection to eliot's trauma related to logan kinnear) would

not have been that much of a defining and utterly traumatizing experience for him, that he literally took 3 seasons to fully recover from.
if eliot didn't have that childhood defined by homophobia or wasn't queer then his forced and magically celibate marriage to fen would not

nearly have been so horrible for him and would not have nearly as many traumatizing and harmful implications for him.
it wouldn't matter as much that fen is pretty much the only one who ever gets to honestly express her feelings about their forced marriage or that this entire

plotline pretty much revolves around her.
if eliot wasn't a victim of homophobic childhood abuse, he might not have the same issues centered around trust and intimacy and romantic love that are a natural consequence of that kind of environment.
and if he didn't have these issues

then he might have told quentin at the mosaic that he was in love with him.
he might not have ended up turning quentin down after returning from the mosaic because he probably would not have been afraid of the kind of feelings he and quentin had for each other.

telling quentin about his true feelings in s4 was supposed to be the first giant step in his journey of healing from years of homophobic childhood abuse and the resulting self destructive tendencies. it was supposed to be about eliot believing that he is capable of loving someone

and that he himself is deserving of love.
and the fact that eliot's entire story arc is defined and driven by the homophobia he experienced as a child and young man and that so much of his personal healing and the natural culmination of this story arc was tied to eliot confessing

his love and his desire for a relationship to another man makes it incredibly pointed, harmful and fucked up that he not only wasn't given the chance to do that on screen but also spend his entire last season basically muzzled about the true extent of his relationship with

quentin and his grief surrounding quentin's death and his lost chance at love and healing.

the fact that a bunch of (presumably) cishet people wrote a story so defined by queer pain for one of their characters and then had the AUDACITY to take away his chance at addressing and healing from this pain and finding happiness in a romantic relationship by killing

the man he was in love with RIGHT when eliot was ready to confess his feelings and be truly vulnerable and truthful with him is beyond fucked up.
eliot and the queer viewers who saw themselves his character and story deserved so so so much better!