Nobody is forcing you to use safety tools in your game.

That said - when you laugh at them and denigrate the people who choose to use them, then say "just have a conversation with me", you're sending a very clear sign that any such conversation would be met with mockery.

If you're actively hostile to people who advocate for safety tools, why should anyone trust that you'll be open to a conversation about why I don't want to play in a game where sexual assault is played for laughs, or included at all?

Everyone has a right to choose who they play with, and to choose what themes occur in their games. That goes both ways, of course.

But it's just a matter of common courtesy to allow people to opt out of certain themes and topics *before they occur at the table*

And, even better, it allows players who *do* want to engage with traditionally troubling themes to *explicitly opt in to them* - & to know when they do that that they can trust you to handle them maturely, and to allow you to revoke their consent to those themes without judgement

*Allow them

When everyone trusts and respects one another, and everyone feels safe, everybody has a better time. Thet should be obvious.

I also think it's vitallty important that white men who present cis-het (even when we aren't) such as myself advocate for these tools loudly and frequently.

So often the voices talking about safety and consent are marginalized, and that makes it easy for the people who *really* need to hear this conversations to dismiss them.

I've been vocal about this stuff before, but i can do more and I'm going to try to lead by example on this.

This thread was riddled with typos. Sorry about that. If anything was unclear as a result of them, let me know and I'll clarify.

This is taking off, which sort of proves my point later in the thread that white men should be talking about this regularly.

I won't promote myself here. Instead I'm going to recommended you follow @KiennaS & @jl_nicegirl and listen to what they have to say about safety in RPGs.