A lot of you are struggling with a failing marriage or agonizing about divorce.

There’s a lot of shame & ambivalence about doing the right thing. The religious, traditional folks pressure you to stay married no matter what. The progressives pressure you to leave impulsively...

Neither may be the “right” answer for you. You have to consider your own failings & poor judgement.

Whether you have kids is a major factor. If you can’t coexist healthily you’re better off ending it & doing your best to make a better life for all

Focus on what you can control.

You can get through divorce as well as can be if you have the right mindset.

Once the process is complete you get a 2nd chance at doing things the right way.

You can honor yourself, your values, beliefs & your family the right way.

In 5 yrs you may be amazed.

It may be the better choice, but you must accept the loss, learn from your mistakes & forgive yourself for getting it wrong.

Make marriage sacred by not rushing into it. Understand what it requires intrinsically not for your own fulfillment but for the greater purpose it serves.