what's the most distressing part about hearing about people breaking isolation to have sex: is it the lack of consideration for others well-being, the lack of remorse for it, or that it's completely understandable

gay men have never held space to talk about sexual health and they're not going to start now. it's why they're out cruising in full force across the city

"understandable" in the sense that i understand that their typical risk assessment formula has not been disrupted by this ultimate disruption of circumstances

the public shaming for breaking isolation is completely different than the peer judgement of those who have already slipped up who are now poking you to see how much you've cracked

also coming as no surprise is dishonesty in disclosure, gay men who when asked if they've "seen anybody" say they've "seen a friend" to hide the fact that they've been hooking up, will send pics from that friends bed

absolutely atrocious to see heterosexuals crack under abstinence-only rhetoric when what they really need are harm reduction models to manage risk in everyday situations, ideas that have been worked out decades ago