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Shitty game of #dnd5e last night. My Warlock took a calculated risk and cast Arms of Hadar to take out 6 spiders + finish off a giant spider. But I did hit two party members with 5 damage after save.
The Hexblade/bard retaliated against me with 23 fire damage of Hellish Rebuke.
The Hexblade/bard retaliated against me with 23 fire damage of Hellish Rebuke.
So that& #39;s 23 fire damage against my 24hp Warlock. I had to waste my 1/day Genie Lord ability to absorb 9 fire damage, and then blow 2 of 3 HD in a short rest. Other players were like "Woah, this is turning into PvP".
I was fuming inside but I let it go. I felt so betrayed.
I was fuming inside but I let it go. I felt so betrayed.
What really sucked is this happened at the 1 hour mark in a 5 hour game. I& #39;m normally very talkative and engaged in my games, especially with my charismatic Dhampir Warlock, but my mood was spoiled after that. I just didn& #39;t feel like engaging. I was silently raging inside. 
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The hypocrisy is that this hexblade/bard had just used Arms of Hadar himself against more spiders, and also hit a teammate, claiming he didn& #39;t know it also hit friendlies.
I knew what I was doing. I called it out, apologized in advance, but felt it was a worthy calculated risk.
I knew what I was doing. I called it out, apologized in advance, but felt it was a worthy calculated risk.
It didn& #39;t help that this was coming from another player (who often DMs on our server) whom I like and respect a lot. I felt so betrayed. And the rest of the party was so quick to call for "let& #39;s forget this and move on", completely dismissing how it made me feel.
After a character died in the boss fight, they polled players to see if we& #39;d sacrifice 50% of our reward for a Raise Dead spell. I spoke up. I explained that as a player, yes I would. But as a character, my Warlock felt betrayed by this group who did nothing when he was attacked.
Part of me was even hoping that hexblade/bard would go down during the boss fight so I could finish him off. I had an opportunity when he was weakened & out of spell slots, but I didn& #39;t. I let it go. After sharing my feelings at the end, that same guy attacks my Warlock, again.
Since it was late, the DM said "let& #39;s discuss and resolve this tomorrow, ok?" 5 mins later the attacker posts in chat "I take back my last action, my character wouldn& #39;t murder someone."
The DM then pinged me privately to see if I was OK. He was caught off guard as well.
The DM then pinged me privately to see if I was OK. He was caught off guard as well.
That offending player also pinged me to apologize afterwarfs. I told him how shocked I was and how betrayed I felt, that it completely ruined the remaining 4 hours of the game for me.
Now I& #39;m not sure how to handle it. I should just let it go but it& #39;s not easy.
Now I& #39;m not sure how to handle it. I should just let it go but it& #39;s not easy.
Playing D&D is such a bedrock of my escapism in the middle of this pandemic. These actions by a fellow online player I like and respect just left me completely aghast. I get very limited playtime between work and family, and ruining a session I was looking forward to just sucks.
Anyways, most people will find it silly to feel the way I did over a game of D&D, and I doubt anyone will read this far, but I had to get it off my chest, if only to verbalize my emotions and help me figure out how to address this next. Have a nice day everyone. Cheers.
