I'm a terrible friend because I don't know how to continue friendships out of the context they were forged in. Means, if it's a workplace friendship, I can't sustain the energy after I change jobs. If we used to be flatmates, I can't bring the same commitment to the +

relationship after I move away. That makes perfect sense from my perspective because social interaction takes something out of me and gives to me something else, and the former becomes overwhelming and the latter negligible when circumstances change. It's easier for me to talk +

to you in a certain way when I don't have to get over resistance that adds up when the context is different. See, when I live with you or see you daily, I don't need to put in ten thousand effort to say hi. And I have energy left over to say more than hi. But when I am away, it +

saps and saps and saps me out, just attempting to sustain the relationship on the same level that was easily possible in the past. So I detach. And it hurts (I'd rather not have it this way). It hurts both the friend and me, but WHAT ELSE TO DO. This expectation of being able +

to continue interacting with someone the same way even though circumstances have changed is extra painful for some people. Where is the allowance for that, where is the acceptance that yeah it's painful for them TWICE over, so it's not the healthiest expectation to have?

I don't want to be a terrible friend, but I can't but. Because for some people it's either you continue as you were despite change or you have betrayed me forever.

The only type of friendship that has survived the test of time for me: https://twitter.com/DimpledJalebi/status/1265235928269950976?s=20