It'll never be ok as a parent to make ur kids inherit a beef they have no idea about it's origins, moreso one with their own family.

I remember a friend back in school who never saw eye to eye with her own cousin in the same dept, let alone spoke to her.

It was crazy

When i asked why, she simply replied, "we don't speak to that side of the family".

That was what her & her siblings were told growing up & it never really occurred to her to find out why.

I couldn't understand it cos she always seemed so rational but had to lock up.

It wasn't my family so i didn't really care.

They both graduated without any interactions cos they both made conscious effort to avoid themselves.

Fast forward to 2 yrs later, babe calls me to say she finally found out about what caused the beef.

Apparently some silly wrapper dispute that happened over 50yrs ago & escalated to d point where family members had to take sides.

Was glad when i learned that d kids decided to squash the beef the adults started & that she & her cousins were finally getting to know each other.

Funny thing is that these sort of beefs are still very much ongoing in a lot of large Nigerian families.

It's always best to find out about the beef your parents made you inherit and ask yourself if it's worth it.

Too many adults going around with "inherited enemies".