I will always have that lesbian thing "I hope she doesn't think I'm hitting on her."

Why don't men think, "I am a full grown man, we are in an enclosed space, what can I do to make sure this woman isn't scared or uncomfortable?"

It's crazy that I do it, and grown men don't.

Men in this thread - I don't do that, my mates don't do that, most men don't do that.

Great, but you need to listen: enough of you and your mates do it to make most women uncomfortable.

Don't get defensive on your own behalf, get defensive on behalf of women and children.