very long but please engage

disclaimer: through anything, it must be heeded that skinny shaming is not okay but it can never and should never be compared or equated to fat shaming. ever.
we don’t need to go into the deeply systematic implications of body politics to know this. https://twitter.com/pelomasebe/status/1264843534210924544

this isn’t really about skinny shaming though.
to give context to what sparked what i’m going to ask: ballet has always been a very white art form + very thin-centric.
also, standard ballet class uniform is tight and shows your physique in its entirety.

i remembered a comment that was made by girls in my class during a ballet summer school.
(i was one of two black girls in the age group but the other was younger and didn’t speak much)
i think we couldn’t figure out how to open the door and someone said:

“if we get stuck in here, we’ll have to eat you first because you have the most meat on your bones”
everyone laughed & so did i but i was really confused.
for comparison sake, i have some booty, fairly wider hips & maybe (a stretch) bigger boobs than most girls dancing

in my age group but i was the same size as/smaller than most girls in that class & the comment was directed at me.
at the same time, there have been criticisms of black girls doing ballet because seemingly whilst white girls become slender through years of training and puberty,

we become muscular or curvy and are therefore not capable of being graceful.

the rest of my confusion stemmed from my family’s constant utterance that i didn’t eat enough and the general desired body type being a curvy one (which i really did and still do aspire to)

for that reason, i didn’t know what “meat” that girl was talking about when i was tiny by many standards – even comparative ones in that very dance class.

in addition, there is an evident sexualization of black girls and an even worse sexualization of young fat black girls.
a skinny girl wearing the same thing as a bigger girl would never warrant prescriptions of what “appropriate clothing” or “dressing for your body” is.

to a much much lesser extent, in some contexts, a white girl wearing the same thing as a black girl wouldn’t warrant certain commentary.

idk if it’s a thing or not but it seems being black automatically grants your body an image in the white gaze that is different to the one in the black gaze.
it is unfortunately a given that fat bodies are judged and policed no matter the context & that shouldn’t be neglected!

but my question is (if the systematic factor were somehow negligible), would it be true to say that the experience of body politics differs depending on the racial & cultural gaze?
certain bodily features have been (maybe pseudo-scientifically) ascribed to certain races & that

creates an automated view of that body depending on the gaze/perspective – maybe the same way pain thresholds or capabilities of femininity & softness are automatically viewed a certain way because of the gaze of the viewer.

e.g. on the african continent, there is a probably outdated phenomenon of force-feeding young girls and (correct me if i’m wrong) there is/was a conception that west african societies “prefer” women with fuller or more curvaceous figures.

looking at fashion & media, it’s safe to assume that that would not be the case in the global north.
the ideal body type of the relevant races or cultures differ from the ones here and once those societies intersect, the experience becomes muddled.

please tell me whether or not this makes even a shred of sense.