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This is a MUST-READ for married men. '“She didn't want to be my mother. She wanted to be my partner.....I passively left her to manage housework, our schedules and the logistics of caring for our son,” he said.' @nytimes https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytimes
“I call it accidental sexism, where you say, ‘Of course I’m disgusted by inequality, I’m not sexist.’ Yet every time she tried to recruit me to be invested and do things around the house and take stuff away from her so she could heal, I didn’t.” @nytimes https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytimes
“What’s the big deal?” he often said. “In the grand scheme of things, who cares if I leave things lying around?”
Once, in desperation, I counted up how many items he left scattered about for me to put away in one day: 50.' Jancee Dunn @nytimes https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytimes
Once, in desperation, I counted up how many items he left scattered about for me to put away in one day: 50.' Jancee Dunn @nytimes https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytimes
"Guys dispute the facts of the story their partner just told; agree with the facts, but believe their partner is overreacting; or defend their actions by explaining why they did it. In all three cases, his partner’s feelings are invalid.”
@nytimes https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytimes
@nytimes https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytimes
“I tell guys, ‘Dude, I’m not sure if you checked the calendar lately, but it’s not 1960 anymore,” Fray said. “Step up and show up. I tell my story,” he said, “so that maybe other people won’t get divorced like me.” @nytimes https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/18/parenting/marriage-invisible-labor-coach.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytimes
