TW: Abuse //

When non-abusive mothers tell me, “I would want to talk feelings with my child to try to work things out,” when victims say they don’t want to try to have a conversation.

Okay, first off- that’s because you’re not an abuser. You’re a mother. Abusers DO NOT WANT to talk feelings out. And you don’t think that’s something us as victims have already tried?

Or as @danowensmgmt said even better- it’s more of a cannot than do not. Like we’ll have already tried multiple times and then it’s useless. We’ve already learned that it doesn’t work. For me, I’ve probably had that talk so many times and it fixed NOTHING!

Two things would happen: gaslighting and then shit turned around on me, and then I get accused of being the abusive one, or I get some bullshit “I’m sorry” and tears only to have the same crap happen the next day, or even the next hour.