Very.

And it only came after I a) interrupted my own patterns so I could properly understand my worth and b) dramatically shifted my standards of what was tolerable from a partner.

And I could only hold the bar high on my standards because I got clear on my worth first. https://twitter.com/MadonaMac/status/1264760317915156480

And to be clear, even if I was *not* happily married now, all the work still would have been worth it.

I’d rather be single and know what I’m worth than be in a relationship beneath my value.

That wasn’t always me. But I’m sure glad I got there. I hope girls get there faster.

I think we (women, in particular) think “relationship work” is about the ultimate prize of getting married.

Girl the ultimate prize is you. Liking and loving your damn self.

My close friends know I put in WORK. To redefine my self worth. To put the pieces back together that I had let get crushed.

You think the goal of all that was to get married?

TUH?!? Nah. That was for ME.

Last year, I announced my first book deal and my engagement within a week of each other.

And y’all absolutely know which one got more response, lol.

I wrote this the next day, as a reminder to myself & all of us:

https://www.instagram.com/p/BqQdI6bnhj5/?igshid=9m0f8ndjlrjv

(This got posted in the wrong order )