i've noticed that most of our generation's parents view their children as selfish, self-absorbed.... etc. when their children do not conform to the parents' standards, agree with or accept their ideologies, opinions, views... etc. or choosing not to follow the path the parent has

laid out for them. from the bigger picture i noticed that these parents were not given a choice in all or some major life decisions that got them where they are right now.

by including the religious and cultural context, i noticed that for generations, our parents, grandparents and great grandparents.... so on. were forced to live the life their parents chose for them

because they're religiously and culturally bound to it. to them there was no other way because any form of disobedience is a disobedience in the eyes of God and a shame to their community

because the majority of the community thought the same way. it'd be quite challenging to not be a part of this herd mentality. specially with limited resources and dysfunctional codependency on a social level.

It's a cycle that must be broken. i personally believe that breaking that cycle is not something that can happen overnight. there are stages to it. a continuous of balancing the scale.

in addition to that, we might have to sacrifice a thing or two (which could be permanent, temporary and/or optional depending on our personal situation) as an act of compassion if the parents are unaware and resistant but well-intentioned

because i think even if, our generation has to sacrifice a thing or two, what's essential is to develop the awareness and maturity to not pass this down onto our offsprings and others in general. that's when the cycle will be truly broken.