Understand when a friendship has overstayed its welcome. Understand when the friendship is no longer mutually beneficial. It may be hard, but itâs okay to not want to be friends with someone anymore. Tell them that so they can find someone who will be there for them.
I had to do this. The friendship wasnât benefitting me. I was what they needed, but they werenât the friend I wanted. I had to do this with a few people. Sometimes youâll be so good at accommodating others, that you forget that people have to accommodate you as well.
Friendships like that become draining. I had to tell someone that Iâm not the friend theyâre looking for simply because I couldnât no longer give them what theyâre looking for, even though I really was. It just wasnât mutually beneficial. I was very drained and frustrated.
I think I chose accountability towards myself because it wasnât their fault really. They did nothing wrong, and I would rather legit say that Iâm not the friend theyâre looking for, then put the blame on them for being who they are. So I think I made a good choice

I have old friends that still hit me up because I made an impact in their life. I do a lot of avoiding mainly because I donât care for closure. If you saw me as a good fraction of your life, thank you for having me in your space. I may not say anything, but I thank you.
During my journey I had to realize that the more I evolved, the more stuff I couldnât tolerate. I have non spiritual friends I get along with, but sometimes youâll get a mixture that expires. That is okay. It has nothing to do with someone not being as evolved, time was just up.
When I leave peopleâs lives, I try to completely disappear. I try to talk things out but sometimes you really just gotta drop off because some people either donât understand, nor care to, or they keep repeating behaviors. Do what is best for your situation.
Ughhh I made a thread about this experience as it was happening too but I canât find it. When I do Iâll add it here
