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RE finding happiness & being trans- I think if you sit & listen all the live long day to people telling you that transition is tragic, and that the transes are all miserable- and if you do so on a daily basis? Yes, you'll likely be quite sad consequently. I also think 1/
happiness is very hard to find for everyone and that's often because we tend to view happiness as such- ie. positive feelings all of the time. In reality, this is pretty unrealistic for everyone. Ppl who are anti-trans are acting as though, in order for us to accept transition 2/
we can only accept it if it waves a magic wand over all of life's problems. The reality is- your development stagnates if you have to cope with unbearable dysphoria all the time growing up. I've grown as a person about ten times as fast in the last 8 years because of the 3/
fact that there was a lot of normal developmental stuff that would have happened in my teenage years that I instead went through during my early twenties. I was quite naive, far too sincere, not cautious enough. You learn lessons about yourself and the world every single day 4/
& you never stop growing. But oh, kiddo, it's a lot of work. But you can't just choose somehow to not be dysphoric. If you could, then many of us, frankly would... and I'd like that to be a thing of the past because I'd like gender to matter less than it currently does 5/
and for gender dysphoria to be no big huge thing. Just, do what you feel is right. However it's really dumb, unbelievably so, to believe that transition will solve all of life's problems. True happiness, I think is finding purpose, and learning to become comfortable with 6/
negative emotion. You're sat waiting for some sort of time period, when you're in your 40s and 50s and so on, where you'll just be happy all the time. You won't. If you go searching for fairy tale happiness, fairy tale relationships, yeah you're going to be miserable but 7/
christ alive, the parallels. Gay folk choosing to use "gay" (ie. happy) instead of homosexual in reference to themselves was not a mistake. Gay people had tragic narratives thrown at them too, and during that time period many probably did lead somewhat miserable lives too 8/
but they turned around and said "nah, fuck you, we are going to be happy instead" and sometimes that was a front too. Or you know, they were rich gays in Hollywood. I don't equate transition with misery for much the same reason I don't equate being gay with misery 9/
You get to decide. You get to turn around and throw a cream pie in Anita Bryant's face, go get off your trolley on a cocktail of drugs, alcohol and sex, settle down in your later life and think- well, it was interesting, at least. And then the next gen, doesn't have to 10/
deal with these issues. Does that sound like a lot? It is. Don't ever call me weak for transitioning. Ever. It's not an easy thing to do. Broader picture, yes I am pro-trans. I believe one day the transes will live happy lives with zero discussion on it or much made 11/
about it & we'll look back on this whole thing like- Jesus H Christ, this was transphobic as fuck. I don't want to be remembered as a log cabin Republican frankly. The lives of closetted people were just as miserable but you never heard their stories. I did, and have and 12/
to this day I still do. It's not, in my opinion, a happy place to be when you're sleeping around on Tuesday night and taking it to the Confessional by Thursday afternoon. 
That's pretty tragic too. In the same way, I know trans people who have not transitioned, 13/
That's pretty tragic too. In the same way, I know trans people who have not transitioned, 13/
and have suffered with dysphoria & been pretty miserable too. So if you want to make trans identity political, then fine I guess. My point was always- I'm not trying to be political, this is just me. But the second you come at us with this tragedy bullshit? I'll be honest 14/
it makes me want to throw a cream pie in Posie Parker's face, because she is the modern day Anita Bryant to be blunt and I am no Log Cabin Republican, again I find it too closeted & tragic. After we're done throwing cream pies, idk go live life to the best of my ability. 15/
When tragedy I haven't asked for gets left at my feet as though it is inevitable and as though I can somehow "choose" to not be dysphoric? Then wouldn't you know it? I make my identity political. Mostly bc it has been made political on my behalf by folks on the 16/
authoritarian left (RF) and authoritarian right (GC). You want to sit and argue that it is the transes fault when political orgs, of both left and right-wing biases, are cheering on Victor Orban's authoritarianism? Zero thought at all to power dynamics & often from purpoted 17/
marxists too. No, not everything is power politics, but when TERFs sit and act oppressed when they have more political power than any other lobbying group with zero organisational hierarchy or proper organisational functions? Hah, do sod off. People just don't like you & 18/
there is a difference. People are allowed to hate you and distance themselves from you too. Tough shit, life is hard. That doesn't make you oppressed. It makes you an idiot. So my political power is in showing people who would often otherwise be closetted & miserable 19/
that there is another way. It's not so tragic unless you decide that it is. It doesn't always have to be like this. You don't have to remain in a closet "coping" with your gender dysphoria the same way prior generations "coped" with their same-sex attraction. If people 20/
want to sit and act like that is the worst thing ever, you're not seeing the bigger picture. Many of you can't see the forest for the trees frankly. If that's so awful, then fine I guess I'm awful for wanting a better world. More fool me. 21/21
