Talking to @infamousfiddler about privilege the other day. Everyone gets some of it. But I don& #39;t think we can call the people who come into our lives privilege in quite that way, even if it& #39;s a privilege to know and love them. They& #39;re luck and timing and effort, not assets.

I& #39;m not always great at friendship. I tend to assume that if I take any effort at all, I& #39;ll be abandoned, and so when I start to feel like a burden or like I& #39;m not good enough in some way, I retreat hard.

This also means I& #39;ll stay long after it ceases to be good for me, desperately trying to force myself back into pots that I& #39;ve outgrown and that don& #39;t leave my roots any room to breathe.

What& #39;s...funny? Ironic? Annoying? About that is that I WANT my friends to take work. I want them to ask for ridiculous things. I want to be able to make an effort for them, to show how much I love them.

So the very behavior that makes me pull back from a friendship (oh no! I am A Burden! I will no longer be loved! I MUST RETURN TO THE SWAMP TO DIE) is a behavior I want to encourage in my friends. Give me fetch quests! Make me do for you!