We're seriously planning to be hunkered down at home for a very long time. Fixing up the backyard to be as pleasant as possible, making our WFH space more permanent, planning for family and solo fun by getting equipment we need to stay fit at home. It feels hopeful.

I say hopeful because I feel like I'm finally not fighting with reality. Not trying to make the world what it isn't. I'm changing what I can - my actions, my little slice of the world - to meet my needs and my loved ones' needs. Right now, that's real power.

Look around, especially if you've been agitated lately. Where are you fighting the good fight and where are you exhausting yourself fighting against something you can't change? What little thing can you do to stop fighting reality and put that energy into self-soothing?

Self-soothing is an advanced skill that many people struggle with throughout adulthood. It takes patience, practice, and an ability to fail and compassionately pick yourself up again without shaming yourself.

This! In times of crisis, this skill is vital. It's good to have friends to partner with and keep yourself accountable too. https://twitter.com/CoffeeShopRabbi/status/1264662410712936448?s=19

This also takes the ability to mourn. And to mourn healthily. Mourning healthily is acknowledging exactly what you have lost and feeling it completely and deeply.

And then getting back up. Eating. Showering. Talking to friends or family. Living without the things you've lost.