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Literally everytime someone rants about not owing anyone friendship, there is ALWAYS someone in the comments going “well this makes me not want to try to be friends with anyone from X group now....”
But lemme drop some food for thought in a thread, some of y’all need to hear it:
But lemme drop some food for thought in a thread, some of y’all need to hear it:
Build friendships, sure, but do it organically. Don’t expect to become good friends with everyone you want, this isn’t a pet shelter. You can’t just pick any person and go “that one looks good, I’m going to make that one my friend”, that’s not how relationships work realistically
Friendship is not owed to you just for being nice, or for following someone on social media, and it puts ordinary ppl in uncomfortable positions when you force a relationship on them that they may not have wanted or have been interested in. And that’s not a personal attack on you
Consider that building a genuine friendship takes time, sacrifice, mutual interest, trust, compatibility, and enormous emotional energy. Not everyone is up for that with every person they meet, especially on social media, that’s why understanding boundaries is so important 
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It’s not a commentary on you or your personality. It is just literally impossible to be friends with everyone we want. We can only manage so large of social circles, and though people come and go, many folks generally have a limit of how big of a circle they can manage healthily.
That said you can always choose niceness. Even if you don’t get to be friends with everyone you want, being a reliable peer or acquaintance is just as valuable. It doesn’t require as much effort, and thus doesn’t come with the same closeness, but is still a great honor to have https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💖" title="Sparkling heart" aria-label="Emoji: Sparkling heart">
I follow many great artists that I’m not “friends with”, though I may imagine we would get along if we hung out! Still, I still respect them greatly and give them positive support and cheer them on in what they’re doing. And sometimes that alone grows into friendships too! https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🥰" title="Smiling face with 3 hearts" aria-label="Emoji: Smiling face with 3 hearts">
Its not wrong to desire a friendship, it would be cool to be friends with a ton of ppl! But you can’t just one-sidedly start a platonic relationship, youre asking a lot of the other person in doing that. Just remember that sometimes, being a mutually supportive peer is great too!
And to reiterate one last time: It’s not something to take personally. Some ppl’s social circles are already a lot to keep up with. It would be hard to find appropriate time for them all if we let everyone in. Even our best friends and family are hard to find enough time for!
Just respect people’s boundaries, and remember that they appreciate your friendliness, whether or not you are “friends”. Just being amicable on its own is a great trait, don’t give that up, because that shows true integrity https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💖" title="Sparkling heart" aria-label="Emoji: Sparkling heart"> be nice to people even when you have nothing to gain
