Toxic energy (especially in relationships dynamics) has been getting a lot of flack in society since we collectively became aware of it as an undesirable trait to carry, but I’d like to shed some like on the benefits of toxicity.
Yeah, there is ALWAYS a flip side

Now, before you go running back to your toxic ex because of this thread, let me be clear:
encountering toxicity in our lives is ONLY beneficial when we use the experience to GROW from.

STAYING in a toxic dynamic will not teach you anything but how to settle for less & ignore your truth, and those are not valuable life skills.

BUT when we allow the toxic dynamic we experience to propel us forward?
I call that beneficial

Toxicity is sometimes what’s aligned for you to tackle before you experience a healthy relationship dynamic.

The problem only comes up when we STAY in the cycle that’s created through this experience.

Once a cycle is created, WE have to break it in order for it to stop.

Once we break the cycle & move away from the toxic energy, we gain a clear innerstanding of the part WE played in the toxic dynamic...
because it takes two to tango

How we process this information is probably the most important part of integrating the knowledge this experience has for us...

If we shame ourselves, we often continue the toxicity into our next relationships.

If we take accountability & forgive ourselves, we can learn.

The thing is, toxicity is created when two wounded people try to love each other with the tools they have available to them.

The problem is, these tools are often not conducive to a healthy, loving relationship...
because that’s something we’ve never experienced.

Toxicity is important because it’s one of the circumstances we encounter during our human experience that helps lead us back to ourselves.

After having tried to create a loving dynamic externally & coming up short, for whatever reason, we are given the choice to turn that love energy inward.

It’s in learning to turn that love energy inward & cultivating a healthy relationship with ourselves that we truly allowed to grow.

Toxicity is a teacher.
We are the students.
Our job here is to learn to love ourselves deeply, truly, & without limits.