You know how caste works in relationships?
I dated my UC ex for 5 years. Although it was serious, he never spoke about me with his family the entire 5 years, because he said they were too conservative about dating.
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He said he'll speak to them about me only when we were both settled well & he could use his success (& mine) to convince them about our marriage
I just stayed no questions asked bc I loved him.
The skewed power dynamics & his blindness to it turned the relationship toxic. +

I eventually gave up because it got toxic to the point of the complete annihilation of my self. I broke up with my dignity in tatters but a little rescue-able.

It must have hurt his ego, so he told his family & made them accept me, by being self destructive.+

I briefly fell for it, but I realised it was just a way for him to get back & then continue to treat me terribly.
So I broke up.
This was abt a year ago.
He's still not 'well settled', but took home the girl he's now seeing for the last couple of months. She is from his caste.

Also I found out about this from someone else. He didn't even have the courtesy to tell me he was seeing her, let alone that she goes to his house.