When I saw a non-verbal autistic boy was 'missing' and mom claimed 2 black drug dealers took him after ramming her car looking for drugs?

I knew she'd murdered him. It was painfully obvious. But reading the full story this morning was heart wrenching.

She threw him into one canal, and ...bystanders responded to his screams and rescued him.

So she drove to another and did it again, this time killing him.

That poor little boy.

Mom's justification was 'he's better off dead', something we've heard from other parents who've murdered their autistic child.

I wish there was a way for a parent to state surrender with wage garnishment for support when they don't want to parent, rather than neglect or abuse

Oh and if you think that there is, you're wrong. Parents can't surrender a non-infant to the state. The state can take your child away from you, the state can sever your parental rights...but its near impossible for a parent to surrender a child based on 'I don't wanna'

And while someone who could murder their child in this manner could never ever have been a good parent in my estimation

I think other parents who are 'overwhelmed' because of the amount of care their child needs COULD be good parents if given the support to help.

Not this tho.

I also wish there wasn't a HUGE social stigma around parents not being good parents?

I mean...not that we shouldn't stinkeye the fuck out of abuse and step in...

but rather, parents admitting parenting is super hard, and many are very unprepared or don't know how to do parts

and that parenting classes were common, more common and less stigma than Lamaze for fuck's sake.

I come from a generation where parents spanking their kids was the norm, the debate wasn't on spanking so much as HOW to spank.

My father used a thick ass leather belt.

My friends parents used shoes, spoons, hands, etc.

If I had told my teacher my father had beat my ass with a belt, their response would've been

What did you do

We know today, and it's not opinion...there's data....

that spanking your kid is bad.

I know. I know. I KNOW. But...it is. Sorry, but it's true. You should never spank a child. We know this for certain.

But we still sort of debate it because to address it otherwise means saying that our parents parenting sucked.

And while my parents parenting actually did suck? In my case my parents never set out to suck. They truly didn't. My dad I'm certain did the absolute best he could.

And my mom, mostly did...but her worst sin was being a *lazy* parent. Which is a really bad sin when you have your daughter do the parenting.

But? It's also what her mom did to her.

Cycles repeat. I chose to break mine by not having kids. ;)

And while each generation I think often does a little better? Old ways handed down are hard to break, especially when they're SO ingrained. Even the bible says to beat your kids more or less.

But the only way that changes is education.

And frankly? I think it should be taught heavily and early in school...like middle school.

It allows kids to recognize (and teach their own parents) abuse patterns and problematic patterns and sets a new 'normal' that we NEED.

Because you don't know something in your home is weird or abnormal until you see other people's homes and how their parents behave.

Again I think ...and perhaps wrongly, but I think most parents DO try their best. It's hard, and life can be hard. And it's harder if they don't

have the tool set beyond their home life and cutting out the worst of what they hated...

and harder still without resources to help them. And it just benefits our entire society to do so.

But we don't. We're so stingy we fight about feeding a hungry child at school.

:(