Many times we try to do something nice for someone and it turns out wrong.

Why?

What you think someone will appreciate and what that person actually prefers may be totally different.

One of the difficulties in every relationship is to understand what's important for people.

For example, let's say that someone you love is sad or angry.

You want to help, so you make an effort to get closer.

This person prefers being alone, but you insist and try to get closer.

You have good intentions with a bad execution.

Here's another example:

An athlete decides to do an extra training without letting his coach know.

He thought that his coach will appreciate his work ethic.

When he tells the coach about doing the extra training, the coach yells at him, saying it wasn't professional.

The coach's perception of professionalism is discipline and good communication.

You have to understand what every person's world view is.

What are the core values, personality traits, what's important and what isn't.

Do not assume that people think like you.

Communicate well, ask questions, get to know people and notice how they think.

Listen.

That's how you avoid doing something with good intentions and making the situation worse.

The best part is, by understanding how to read people, you'll make your life easier.