Everybody’s talking about Ayesha Curry so fine. Let’s talk about Ayesha Curry.

She posted some pics in a bathing suit on IG.

Now everybody’s slut shaming her.

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In the past, Curry talked about how she preferred to dress more modestly and called out women who showed too much of their bodies. She said she preferred to keep the important things covered up for the person who matters, meaning her husband.

That’s fine, that’s her choice. It’s also her choice if she has grown and changed as a person and no longer holds this opinion. Maybe she no longer feels the need to be modest.

So she should apologize to the people she slut shamed, you say.

Yeah, ok.

Maybe she will apologize. Maybe she’s scared to because she knows there will be backlash. Maybe she doesn’t remember ever saying those things.

Maybe she won’t apologize bc she still believes in dressing modestly, and she doesn’t view wearing a bathing suit as being immodest.

I don’t know. You don’t know. We’ll see. In the meantime, slut shaming her in revenge because she slut shamed other people isn’t accomplishing anything. It’s perpetuating a vicious cycle.

But let’s set that aside for a moment and address the more concerning issue.

Which is:

People are shaming her for posting a “thirst trap.” People are shaming her for trying to get the attention and validation of men who are not her husband.

I’m sorry, WHAT THE FUCK?

Does she say she’s trying to get other men to hit on her in that IG caption? NO. She just had her third child & had a really difficult time with it, and now she’s proud that she’s gotten herself in shape afterwards. What part of that is fishing for male attention?

Men, I know this is often and repeatedly hard for you guys to understand, but WOMEN DO NOT DRESS SO THAT YOU WILL LUST OVER US. We dress in things that make us feel confident and good. You are not part of the equation.

Curry didn’t post a thirst trap. She posted an ordinary photo of herself in a bikini (A PHOTO HER HUSBAND TOOK) and you guys are turning it into something sexual and shameful.

She didn’t do this so you would drool over her, so you would rate her body in your mind, so some incel in his mother’s basement would masturbate himself to sleep over this image tonight.

She did it bc she had a difficult pregnancy & she’s excited to share her fitness post-birth.

A nearly nude human body doesn’t have to be sexual. It’s normal. We all have bodies. All of us, sometimes, are nude.

But to you, this is a thirst trap, which says a lot more about how you view women then it says about Curry herself.

This says that you view nude or nearly nude women as always sexual. This probably says that you view women as sexual objects. This says that you see a woman and a bathing suit and automatically assume she’s trying to attract you. Why would she want to attract you?

She’s happily married, and even if she wasn’t, WHY WOULD SHE WANT TO ATTRACT YOU? The way women dress, or the way we undress, it’s not about you, men.

It’s about us ladies. We dress for ourselves.

We are not asking for your attention or judgment or sexual arousal.

We just want to exist in the clothes that make us feel good about ourselves. And in this case, Curry just wanted to share how happy she was about her body after having a difficult pregnancy and three kids. She probably worked really hard to achieve this level of fitness.

And you fools think it’s about you? You think she put all that effort into fitness for you? You think women are really out here in the world dolling ourselves up or working out because we want you to look at us and be aroused?

We have literally never once said we wanted that.

Women, and all people, are allowed to post photos of ourselves in clothes OR out of clothes and have them not be sexual. Not everything naked is sexual. Not everything a woman posts is sexual. We are not flirting. We are just living our best lives.

So except us as we are or

LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE.

It really could not be simpler, yet so many of you men are still struggling with this.

Seriously, .

Our bodies do not exist for your pleasure.

Your sexism is not cute.

Since so many of y’all are thick regarding this issue, imma say it louder for the people at the back.

WOMEN’S
BODIES
DO
NOT
EXIST
FOR
YOUR
PLEASURE

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.