I've come to the conclusion that calling yourself a "bisexual lesbian" is problematic, not because you don't exist and aren't valid, but because that's implying that men have a backdoor where they should not. The hostility is abrasive, but try and understand whats happening here

I'm going to use this example because I've been through it a bunch.

Have you ever been in gay male spaces in the fandom as a woman? Parties? Telegram groups? Bc they make it VERY obvious that you shouldn't be there.

Lesbians deserve the right to the same kind of spaces.

It should also be noted that you don't have to be violent towards people, instead just teach them why it's important that gay men and lesbians have their own unique spaces. Teach and talk about it, don't alienate eachother. Nobody gets anything out of hostility.