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Most Nigerian parents never want to have conversations with their children, they& #39;d rather bully u into doing what they want.
Where did this idea that conversing with your children would cause disrespect come from?
"Just do this!" And that& #39;s supposed to be enough reason to?
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Where did this idea that conversing with your children would cause disrespect come from?
"Just do this!" And that& #39;s supposed to be enough reason to?
They want us to be so much like how they were raised, and think hitting you instead of having a conversation is better. Using hurtful hateful words and terming it correction but it& #39;s always an issue if you react? It suddenly becomes lack of fear and regard for them.
A good deal of us are tired, frustrated because we have to be home under the same roof with them. Some have refused to keep up with the times, nothing you say would ever make sense. We get emotionally and mentally bullied and if you talk, they threaten to cut off your supplies
This blackmail of being responsible for a good deal of our basic needs and so we shouldn& #39;t talk need to end and more Nigerian parents need to start seeing their children especially teenagers and youths as adults with formed minds and accord them respect too.
I& #39;m not just your child, I& #39;m human with feelings and emotions too. There& #39;s a need for our own feelings to be respected. Instead of yelling "Do this! " how about lovingly showing me reasons to? How about cultivating a relationship, knowing me for me as a person, not just ur child?
Because it becomes an issue when feelings clash and we impulsively have to raise our voices and talk back in reaction. Raising and doing all you need for your child is not a Favor that u should be perpetually worshipped for, It is your responsibility as a parent.
I created this thread because most people would rather keep quiet and suffer in silence because you don& #39;t talk back at parents and they& #39;ll quote Ephesians 6:1 for you. It& #39;s an evolving world, Nigerian parents too must evolve and have personal relationships with their children.
And I& #39;m not encouraging disrespect in any way. It is a lot to raise children in today& #39;s society and economic realities but still parents here need to do better. I& #39;m encouraging knowing your children better, that way you bond, they feel secure around you, share anything with you
See you as role models, confide in you, and not just see you as someone performing a statutory function of raising a child, and investing in them just so u can start eating "ounje omo". When you yell, nag, abuse, hit them constantly, they withdraw, rebel, want to be far away
