The thing about giving people too many chances to make “things right”- yes, everybody deserves a second chance but if you keep giving them to someone who isn’t self aware they just take it as another reason to do you wrong because they’re aware that you don’t love yourself(cont)

and your peace as much as you claim you do. Everytime you give them a chance you’re telling them that you value the relationship you have with them more than you value the relationship you have with yourself. And narcissists love that, they feel entitled to your forgiveness(cont)

because in their head what they did isn’t as bad as you’re making it out to be. They don’t understand the concept of ‘principles’ and giving them countless chances isn’t going to make them get it because they don’t want to.

So everytime you give them another chance , you’re enabling their behaviour and in the end you stand to lose a lot more because you’re giving so much of yourself to someone who has proven to you that they don’t care as much as they say they do.

THERE’S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH FORGIVING PEOPLE AND DISASSOCIATING FROM THEM. IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BITTER INDIVIDUAL.SOMETIMES YOUR PEACE REQUIRES U TO LEARN TO BE CONTENT WITH LOVING PEOPLE FROM A DISTANCE BECAUSE PROXIMITY ALLOWS MISTREATMENT CAUSE YOU’VE NO BOUNDERIES

Inner peace requires you to have boundaries. For as long as you don’t have boundaries, you’ll never be at peace because you’ll always be subjected to the abuse of those who are aware that you don’t have boundaries. It’s sad that the abuse will always be from people you love.