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A rship #Thread
(We& #39;ve been doing it wrong)

Money, a sexy body, face, convenient sex, affection, children, and (maybe) a fun personality should not be your ULTIMATE value propositions in a relationship.

If that& #39;s all you& #39;re offering, then it& #39;s likely that you& #39;re the reason why your relationships keep failing.

Neither should it be dates, frequent open conversations, or consistent material things.

Ppl don& #39;t NEED a relationship to get all that... STUFFhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏾‍♂️" title="Man shrugging (medium dark skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Man shrugging (medium dark skin tone)">

If you& #39;re not willingly & actively, WORKING towards your partner& #39;s growth (in ALL aspects of their life), then they won& #39;t NEED YOU.

The ONLY thing that makes a rship irreplaceable is NATURAL, UNLIMITED SUPPORT. All the other sh!t that you see on social media can be bought or finessed.

Offer (and seek after)
GROWTH & PARTNERSHIP:

Spiritually
Mentally
Financially
Socially
And all the other ally& #39;shttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😂" title="Face with tears of joy" aria-label="Emoji: Face with tears of joy">

Caz guess what? That& #39;s the ONLY reason why someone won& #39;t leave you.

And if you offered this b4, got burned, and stopped; OFFER IT AGAIN. Some1 will reciprocate.

Think abt it... If you won& #39;t contribute to someone else& #39;s growth, why should they contribute to yours?https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤔" title="Thinking face" aria-label="Emoji: Thinking face">

If you& #39;re not helping them to be better versions of themselves, WHY should they need you?https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤔" title="Thinking face" aria-label="Emoji: Thinking face">

Fr, ask yourself, WHY should they NEED YOU?https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤔" title="Thinking face" aria-label="Emoji: Thinking face">

"But he/she won& #39;t be lonely"https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤦🏽‍♂️" title="Man facepalming (medium skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Man facepalming (medium skin tone)">https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤣" title="Rolling on the floor laughing" aria-label="Emoji: Rolling on the floor laughing">

PS: Please don& #39;t expect from ppl what you can& #39;t/won& #39;t give of yourself.

And for the toxic ppl reading this thread:

Stfu and stop pointing fingers!
EVERYBODY has experienced hurt before. Your unwillingness to bounce back does not make this thread less or more valid.

If you can& #39;t see how you& #39;ll be helping someone to grow in at least the 4 areas listed earlier (spiritual, mental, financial, social), then you& #39;re definitely NOT ready to be in a rship.

PS: Heal first.

Thanks for attending my TedxTalkhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😌" title="Relieved face" aria-label="Emoji: Relieved face">

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