Women are not just "opting out the workforce." Women are being coerced out of the workforce or discarded, and this is why "marrying up" and "independent women" discourse has always been fucking useless. https://www.thelily.com/i-had-to-choose-being-a-mother-with-no-child-care-or-summer-camps-women-are-being-edged-out-of-the-workforce/?fbclid=IwAR2ly86prcjuEcAQqkEJPi82QhIzusMqpm33G3R_d89oSHOp2JN1kyKTljM

There's a grown man in this article who isn't working who broke after THREE DAYS of watching a damn toddler. He's not even working right now. This woman owned a company with 10+ employees. Her shutting it down is a coercive "choice." Call it what it is: misogyny.

And this is also a great example of the choice/coercion binary marginalized folks must often face. It isn't either or. I hate the phrase "opting out." It sanitizes and obscures what's actually happening. It reifies the "can women have it all" conversations.

Opting out is a classed phrase anyway. I "opted out" of working degrading low pay domestic/retail jobs that wouldn't allow me to homeschool my kid, but did I really have options? Except no one is gonna go to bat for me because "beggars can't be choosers." https://twitter.com/thotscholar/status/1264227073855492097?s=19

The outrage around this is also because it's middle class+ women who "did everything right" who are being forced, via systemic and interpersonal misogyny, to "opt out." These are women who are *deserving*, not poor prostitute parents, not deviant women who made poor "choices."