tw// weight

So anyway talking about anyone’s weight for any reason always has been and always will be a shitty thing to do so don’t do it.

You have zero rights to comment on someone else’s body.

If you are not their close family and loved ones, you have no right to be talking about it or “raising awareness” like you‘re trying to help.

I get some of you might be worried but it is literally none of your business okay.

It’s not your body.

But let’s quickly address some of the ways in which talking about this can be damaging to someone REGARDLESS of the situation or whether it actually is healthy or not, okay?

If, by chance, it is unhealthy:

Telling someone congratulations for losing weight can reinforce the idea that they’re more valuable to you when there’s less of them.

Talking to someone who does have an ED about their weight can and DOES ENCOURAGE additional weight loss because you’ve pointed out that what they’re doing is working.

Even concern in this situation = validation.

And if it’s completely healthy:

Accusing someone who is HEALTHY of having a problem when they lose weight can make them think you don’t support or love them now that they’ve changed.

Getting worried about someone who loses weight in a healthy way opens the door for them to start thinking about unhealthy methods later.

If someone is losing weight they’re doing it because they have a goal. Telling them they’re going too far can also imply you don’t support them reaching their goals. They may then close off and no longer talk to you or open up to you and trust you with details about themselves.

So as you can see, literally no matter what the situation is or if it’s healthy or not or whatever you’ve convinced yourself is going on, it’s still NEVER OKAY to comment about someone’s weight. For any reason. Ever.

It’s not okay to just assume someone is sick or losing weight in an unhealthy way and I know that’s what some of y’all are doing. I know it comes from a good heart and you’re worried but trust me when I say IT DOESN’T HELP.

Don’t comment on weight loss unless they bring it up first. Ever. Yes, even to coworkers and friends.

Do not make assumptions about someone’s weight or weight loss. This is extremely damaging.

Censor your tweets and stop using those hashtags. Please leave my babie alone.

Some of y’all have never had struggles with your weight and it shows.

As someone who has had an ed for the last seven years, I can very confidently tell you to shut the fuck up and stop making assumptions.

This is not a topic for you to comment on like you’re suddenly a registered dietician or psychologist.

Our fearless leader has already stated that he doesn’t like when we get into their personal matters like this. He’s told us already to trust them to take care of themselves.

Like anyone else, he has friends and family taking care of him. He has seven brothers and a capable company at his back.

Trust them.

They do so much for us and this is all they ask for in return. Please give them this one thing.

Trust them.