https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="😮" title="Face with open mouth" aria-label="Emoji: Face with open mouth"> I& #39;m trying hard (too hard?) to understand.

The dad worked in tech, and now is "between jobs." Maybe there is burnout / depression involved? Hard to contribute. Now feels he& #39;s ruined his wife& #39;s work, failed his family, publicly dragged?

If so, therapy! https://www.thelily.com/i-had-to-choose-being-a-mother-with-no-child-care-or-summer-camps-women-are-being-edged-out-of-the-workforce/">https://www.thelily.com/i-had-to-...
Doing full-time childcare is exhausting for highly capable, great parents. But 3 days and quiting is so unbelievably low, that it seems like something else is going on.

Maybe he really is just a lazy dude. Or maybe his tank was already empty.
Anyone can get burned out. But lots of dudes are reluctant to get professional help. File next to "I don& #39;t wear a mask because it makes me look weak." https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤦🏿‍♂️" title="Man facepalming (dark skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Man facepalming (dark skin tone)">

If you don& #39;t take care of yourself, then you can& #39;t take care of your family. Childcare is taking care of your family.
Anyway, dudes that are like, "That guy is terrible! I& #39;m not like that, so I& #39;m one of the good ones!" Two things:

1. "Better than him" is not the bar

2. Our brains are lying to us. Unless we make a duty roster, we are not doing as much childcare as we think we are. Sorry. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏿‍♂️" title="Man shrugging (dark skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Man shrugging (dark skin tone)">
Primary care givers of any gender, are more accurate when they estimate the secondary care giver& #39;s percentage contribution. Secondary usually greatly overestimates.

Even knowing this fact, I overestimate this too!https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏿‍♂️" title="Man shrugging (dark skin tone)" aria-label="Emoji: Man shrugging (dark skin tone)"> Consistently! To this day!

Don& #39;t trust your brain. Roster.
So if as a guy, your read of the article is "That dude sucks!" you might not be taking full value from it.

I& #39;m using it as an opportunity to update our duty roster, and get a pro take on my burnout level: 1 to 10. I feel fine, but then... I& #39;m a dude, so I would think that. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙃" title="Upside-down face" aria-label="Emoji: Upside-down face">
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