I had my ex colleague complained about her wife that she always wants to fight with him and sometimes lies that she is sick when she is not. He does not like her lies and ignores when she pretends to be sick. I told him 'that is the problem. You don't give her attention.

That is why she acts like she has illness to get your attention. The more you ignore her the more she fights with you. Pay attention to her when she says she is sick. Don't blame her when you find she is not sick. Try to understand what she wants from you.

Sometimes my sister shows me a small cut on her finger she got and explains to me how painful it is?. I never ridicule her by saying "oh you are a mom of two kids. you cannot bear the pain of a small wound. don't create drama.." I can understand why she does so, for the attention

She expects from us to comfort her.We need to understand the emotional needs of our loved ones.We have to give them our time and our attention. When they don't get it from us, they seek attention from wrong people. If they are children, they might put themselves in danger.

So please pay your attention to your loved ones fulfill their emotional needs.