What 'forgiviness' is not

- a thread

1. Forgiveness does not mean "forgive and forget"

Just bec u forgive someone, it doesn't mean na kakalimutan mo totally yung ginawa sayo. U don't have to forget, remember the wrong that was done to u, learn from it & then adjust the relationship

2. Forgiveness does not make excuses for the other person

Mali (pala) na gumawa ng excuses such as "fault ko" "i deserved it" to the point na halos wala ng mali yung tao

3. Forgiveness does not erase the consequences

Kahit anong forgiveness nila, kailangan rin pala na harapin yung mga consequences. The consequencs helps us for the better

4. Forgiveness is not in denial

It's like admitting that i really cared for him & he didn't care for me. And that's really painful. The pain na matagal mo ng kinikimkim when someone hurt u from the past, ayaw mong pag-usapan and e kwento sa iba (friends). But it was there.

Wag mong e deny na sinaktan (nasaktan) ka ng malalim. Be able to forgive (him) without excuses, without denial. Bec it such a nice feeling sa dulo. Kahit wala siyang ka alam-alam dun sa ginawa nya. I forgave him.

I don't feel the need to call him or talk to him for a closure. Para ma-forgive ko siya ng maayos, i had to face the fact na sinaktan niya ako

5. Forgiveness does not need an "I'm sorry" to come first

Forgiveness is not really for the person you're forgiving, it's for yourself. For your mental health & emotinonal health.

Unforgiveness, kung hindi ka magpatawad it's like drinking a poison and hoping the other person will die. Ikaw yung nalalason e, tama ba yun? Bat sya okay tas ako madilim

6. Forgiveness does not mean you are better than the one who wronged you

Mahirap tong lunukin e. It's so hard kasi minali ka e. Feeling ko "ako maayos akong tao e, ikaw jan ang masamang ugali e. Bwesit ka". Madaling mag feeling superior, self-righteous

Oo nga minali ka, pero ikaw ba wala kang malaking pagkakamali? In the future never kang magkakamali? Gusto mo ba di ka patawarin ng mga tao pag nagkamali ka? Ikot-ikot lang yan e. As human beings, we will need forgiveness at one point in ourlives. Nagkakamali tayo e

7. Forgiveness is not a feeling

It's a process pala. Kung kaya mong mag work kahit tinatamad ka, kung kaya mong kumain ng desserts kahit busog kana. Then you can do things kahit di mo feel

We can control our emotions kung gugustuhin natin. We can start the process of forgiving kahit hindi natin feel.

8. Forgiveness is not a one time big time thing

Lalo na pag sobrang lalim nung sugat, sobrang sama ng ginawa sayo. You have to forgive many times.

9. Forgiveness is not something you just say in your head

Mas powerful pala pag sinabi mo out-loud. Forgive out loud!!! Say it out loud, kasi parang nagiging mas totoo.

When the heart becomes lighter, the face becomes brighter. Forgiveness is really an amazing beauty products. Be patient, give it a time and keep trying.

I really hope this thread encourages somebody to forgive today.