I do not have even ONE male friend that I am in contact with that I had a relationship with or that I slept with. I expect the same standards from my man.

Even tho I have love for everyone I ever loved, I would never maintain an ongoing friendship (texting, DMs, emails, phone calls, in person visits) with someone I’ve been with for one bc it was once more than a friendship which means even if I don’t have those feelings,

the potential of the other person still having them is very much there. And I don’t like to leave any room for that energy in my life. Otherwise it blocks me from new energy that is more of a match to where I’m at now. And I would never expect a self respecting man to be ok with

me still holding onto any past lovers and visiting them or being in contact with them. It keeps me attached to my past and i don’t want that for myself regardless of what my partner thinks. So I need my partner just as free from his past as I am. That is NOT to be confused with

Forgetting the past. We can sit and talk about our past with one another and analyze past relationships together and if you tell me you still love them as a person that doesn’t bother me one bit. As long as its obvious you have truly let them go. ALSO, the part about the past

Lovers PARTNERS. ARE THEY OK WITH IT?! I assume they aren’t. And I do NOT want to be a reason your girl feels she can’t trust you or it creates problems in your relationship. That would make me feel awful. Unless there are children involved this is different of course.

And this thread goes deeper into why ANY new male platonic friend will be discussed to make sure my partner is comfortable (and also female friends bc women can be envious af and try to sabotage pure love)
https://twitter.com/morteperamore/status/1258788259750019073?s=21 https://twitter.com/morteperamore/status/1258788259750019073