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Bhai Jān, I’ve read your entire thread but here’s a thread of Dalīl to reflect on:
Note the word ‘mihna’ which in Arabic entails a full-time profession. So yes the husband’s job is *also* to do housework on a full-time basis after his 9-5 as you put it. https://twitter.com/saint1day/status/1263916070945112065">https://twitter.com/saint1day...
Note the word ‘mihna’ which in Arabic entails a full-time profession. So yes the husband’s job is *also* to do housework on a full-time basis after his 9-5 as you put it. https://twitter.com/saint1day/status/1263916070945112065">https://twitter.com/saint1day...
& #39;The best of you is the one who is best to his wife,’ - we both agree Islāmically the husband is entire financially responsible for his wife and kids, correct? So when the Sunnāh is to cook, clean and household chores, the narrative of it being ‘false expectations’ is disproved.
Like you said, admittedly, you are not against the principle of a wife working. However, when you say, « women don’t NEED to work unless... besides fields where... role is... like gynaecology » is questionable - did Ḥaḍrat Khadīja *need* to be a trader? No. But she wanted to.
« A man with gheerah isn’t comfortable with his wife being a corporate slave given deadlines by another man... »
It’s important not to conflate ghayrah and outright control. Will your wife not have ghayrah over you if your female boss gives you deadlines?
It’s important not to conflate ghayrah and outright control. Will your wife not have ghayrah over you if your female boss gives you deadlines?
It is not a « dumb modern feminist-mindset notion. »
Islām allows women to have expectations of their husbands. We live in times where women are not given their due rights. It is more appropriate to speak to men to be more active and cognisant than undercut women’s narratives.
Islām allows women to have expectations of their husbands. We live in times where women are not given their due rights. It is more appropriate to speak to men to be more active and cognisant than undercut women’s narratives.
That said, it is evident in Islām, of course, that the Tarbiyya of children lies foremost with the mother. However: « spreading the notion that men are responsible for everything in the institution of marriage » is inaccurate, no one is arguing that - your entire thread... [1/2]
![That said, it is evident in Islām, of course, that the Tarbiyya of children lies foremost with the mother. However: « spreading the notion that men are responsible for everything in the institution of marriage » is inaccurate, no one is arguing that - your entire thread... [1/2]](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EYqtz5HWAAIosW0.jpg "That said, it is evident in Islām, of course, that the Tarbiyya of children lies foremost with the mother. However: « spreading the notion that men are responsible for everything in the institution of marriage » is inaccurate, no one is arguing that - your entire thread... [1/2]")
... Speaks to the fact that even more needs to be done to tackle this mindset. Subhi’s words were not an attack on male fragility, it was a means to encourage men to be active participants at home and not make of their wives, servants, as is commonplace in many South Asian homes.
The point of arguing against « men are responsible for everything in... marriage » is redundant, because if we say your wife is to obey you as ‘qawwam’ then that necessarily entails you having more responsibilites as a caretaker than her (note, not guardian/lordship.)
At the end of the day, the point is that within today’s context, a bigger threat to society is that women’s rights are not being duly fulfilled than any harm to men’s rights. So let the women speak to their own about their responsibilites to their husbands.
Your time will be better spent in encouraging other brothers to be more active in their homes and fulfilling their responsibilites to their families rather than supposing us men are ‘victims’ to SJWs.
Apart from that, Allāhu ‘Alim and ‘Eid Mūbarak to everyone. Wassalām. :)
Apart from that, Allāhu ‘Alim and ‘Eid Mūbarak to everyone. Wassalām. :)
