I'm not big on snobbery at all and I do agree with cavegirl's take on this.

Unfortunately most of my game design doesn't reflect this -- I'm not so good at rules that mechanicize social/emotional abstractions. https://twitter.com/DyingStylishly/status/1263833073461985280

E.g., in the Unnamed Lesbian Pirate RPG, there are still more rules about pirates fighting bad guys than about being lesbians who fall in love.

I guess part of it is that to some extent, rules for relationships/emotions feel coercive to me, and thus elevate emotional manipulation to a core mechanic of a game.

That's not INHERENTLY bad of course, but due to my past -- and I mean real-world stuff, not my gaming experience (although I guess that's related too?) -- I can't deal with it.

Hell, even writing about it in this thread is spiking my anxiety, and I am sure hoping I don't get attacked for doing so.

tl;dr: cavegirl is right but my traumas make it hard for me to visualize rules I would write that prioritize social/emotional mechanics.