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After a VERY long and emotionally draining week, I learned a few things. Some of those lessons have been painful ones. But often the most painful lessons are the ones you need to learn the most. I'd love to share what I learned here in case it helps anyone at all. 1/7
First, kindness isn't always returned. Supporting others doesn't mean they'll support you when you need it. That's a tough pill to swallow. In spite of that, be kind and supportive anyway. Kindness is its own reward. 2/7
People say and do a lot of hurtful things when they are processing complex feelings and emotions. You have to give people some latitude and practice forgiving freely. With that said, we have to be more aware of how we treat others when we're struggling with our own pain. 3/7
We may find ourselves needing to fight for what's right and advocate for ideological change. That can be noble and important. But we need to learn to attack bad ideas...not people. You don't change minds or hearts with anger and personal attacks. 4/7
People deserve a chance to own their mistakes, apologize when they mean it, and evolve as humans. What we want should be positive change, not vengeance. I have a lot of hurt and anger right now. But it serves no purpose. I need to learn and grow from the pain. We all do. 5/7
People I loved don't love me back. That's awful, but it's ok. Because some people love me dearly and defend me passionately. We all have limited time and emotional energy. Best to focus that on the people who deserve it. Better to know who's in your corner. Weed the garden. 6/7
Finally, you can't be truly honest and make everyone happy. You can't have integrity and please everyone. I'm a people pleaser, and it's one of the heaviest weights I carry. I learned to let go of a little bit of that this week. It was both gut wrenching and empowering. 7/7
