Are we really ready to listen to men? without throwing around labels like 'patriarchal manipulator' 'attention seeking' 'feminist ally' 'gaslighter' 'needy' 'narcissistic'

Today's men might be trying to explore emotional expression but the fear of being shut down is real...

You know how the bible says 'Perfect love casts out fear?', but we've come to not be rewarded by society for saying how we truly feel, because everyone says you should 'man up'.

There's only one emotion that patriarchy allows, and that is anger. In a society so deeply ingrained

everyone is surprised when a man expresses that he can feel anything other than rage. We shudder at the thought that our sculpted out men can actually say something hurt them, or that they are scared of something.

The thought of it terrorises our preconceived worldview of men.

Toxic masculinity in conversation has increased exponentially in internet chatter over the last few years, but to label toxic beside masculinity is to say 'I do not understand this thing, so let me demonize it'

It reminds me of playing soccer as a kid, and when it was getting...

dark, the winning side will scatter the goalpost, while the losing side will call the winning side names and say that they knew they would lose, that's why they scattered their post.

Fight it if you can't understand it. And I think an equitable world is only possible when we sit

together as partners on the table called life, to understand each other and truly not hold our previous archetypes as a lens to view each side of the divide.

I believe erratic is sometimes a desperation to understand, and men should take that as a learning curve...

Suspicion is a good lens to look at men through when they wave the white flag, of course what do we expect if you've been held down too long by the murderous intent of archetypal masculinity?

This might be a helpless cry for better, as we go on to unearth the roots of the toxic

in masculinity.

I do not expect this pill to be swallowed well, they are still forming thoughts in my head, and I expect the clarity of humans who have sat to consider masculinity in it's wholesomeness

Something my girlfriend said 'an attack on a gender, is an attack on God'...

and this because we are created in his image.

I am sorry to have to evolve these ramblings with my religious bias and inclinations. I think a lot of what we experience is an issue of not trusting in God's design.

And this goes all the way to sexuality and identity as well.

Oh God Charles, this is getting too long.

What do I mean? God did have a plan for everything he designed, and a lot of what we see is a result of God's intention being attacked, and the rage creating a pseudo purpose from what he intended.

I was thinking about this in the...

Context of marriage as well, a subject i've had to reduce my contribution on because of how commercialised the subject has become.

Someone reached out to Jesus on the subject of divorce, and one part of his response puzzles me... 'In the beginning, it was not so'

see attached.

You'd clearly see that God intended harmony, and in fact synergy. That we've devolved to rage, is only an effect from the lack of trust on both ends, and the seeming inability to believe that the other side wants the best for you, hence the chaos we now experience.

For a counter culture like ours that says 'break it down' 'change the narrative' 'shatter stereotypes'...

I am quite confident that a look into God's intention would be a step in the right direction in understanding God's design in the area of masculinity, femininity, marriage..

I find myself exhausted, and would love helpful discourse.

Again, my thoughts are still forming, I expect some kindness when you try to give clarity to my thoughts, I fought sharing them, but here we are.